Just like every family, every divorce is different. Regarding child custody, some parents choose to fight it out in court and others choose to cooperate to make the transition easier for the children.
Co-parenting is a highly effective way for parents to continue raising their children together and minimize the potential harm a divorce can cause. Children suffer during the divorce, and co-parenting creates a new family dynamic where both parents are still present, just in a different way.
There are many ways to make co-parenting work, but some are essential in ensuring the process goes smoothly. For example:
Avoid speaking ill of the other parent to your children
Speaking ill of the other parent to your children damages their relationship with the other parent. While it is understandable to have emotions and feelings during and after the divorce that may not necessarily be all positive, it is essential to have your own support system, adults, who are there to listen to and support you in processing your emotions.
Prioritize open, transparent communication
Communication is the basis of every relationship; in this case, it is no exception. Good communication entails openness, the willingness and ability to listen and good faith.
It is critical to be transparent with each other and flexible regarding schedules and possible changes. Life happens, and acknowledging that can go a long way in making co-parenting work.
Co-parenting may not always be easy, but that does not mean it is not effective. With patience and good faith, you will create a new routine, providing your children with the stability they need from both parents.